Forgive

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Why do we let the same people hurt us over and over again?

Why can’t we see what’s coming at us?

Why can’t we move out of the way and not let that train hit us?

We hear the train racing down the track.

We let it hit us, time and time again.

We get hit so many times, that we say

It’s ok.

I’m used to it

or its fine.

Then we apologize to the person who hurt us.

Time and time again the same scenario

Forgive and forget

Forgive and move on

But are your walls now up?

Are you cautious now?

Or do we let the same pain and suffering in again?

Why do we forgive and why do we let people back in?

It is fair to let people in, but only at a distance?

Does it make us an awful person, to not allow them back in?

Does grace mean letting them in too?

or does it just mean not carrying the angry around with us?

We offer compassion but where is our bliss?

Where is our peace and joy?

Do we protect ourselves, or for the sake of grace, allow them back in.

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Homemade

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Homemade (recipes at the bottom of the Blog)

There are a few times in my life when I had to cut back financially. One of these times was after I had my first son Vance. Money was tight, and I needed to save.  I noticed one of my friends using a web-site called “Frugal Girls”. I looked into it and found many ways to save. Some of them sounded crazy, but I tried them.

I wanted to share things I tried and tell others how they turned out. Sometimes it saves you money to make these items, but do they work as well as store-bought items? Is it worth the time to make them?

I finished making homemade Laundry Soap.  It was so easy and if it works, it will save me about 20 dollars each time I make it.  One container of laundry soap could cost up to 20 dollars and I made the same amount for like a dollar.

 I also made homemade fabric softener.  All I needed was a container and vinegar.  Just finished a load of laundry with it and the clothes feel so soft.  If you use Suave Conditioner and store brand vinegar, it only cost like 3 dollars for a gallon.  

I made homemade wipes.  I wasn’t sure about these, but they seem to be working. I took old t-shirts, cut them up, and then put them in a mixture of baby oil, baby shampoo, and water.  You wash them and then reuse them. The t-shirts are softer than regular baby wipes and I use less of them because they absorb more. The wipes also smell wonderful, better than the ones I was using before.

I made homemade leave in conditioner.  It is so easy.  Just take your spray bottle, put a little conditioner in to it (whatever smell you like) and a little water, and shake it up. I tried it this morning, and it works great.  I didn’t even need regular conditioner just the spray. I saved money because you only need a little conditioner for the entire bottle. I used Suave Strawberry Conditioner.  The entire bottle of conditioner cost like a dollar.  It could last me all year, and my hair feels great!

 

Update

The laundry soap is great but a pain to make. The clean up is the problem. It makes a complete mess out of your kitchen. It also makes great presents for teachers. Get a mason jar and out the mix into it, tie a bow on top and you have a homemade present for teachers and who ever else you need to give a little present to.

 

The fabric softener work well, but I noticed after a while the clothes smelled funny. I didn’t know if it was the laundry soap of the softener at first. I stopped using the softened and now only use the laundry detergent. The smell is gone.

 

The homemade wipes worked wonderful at first but my son developed a rash from them. They are still work and save money but test them on your child’s skin first.

 

homemade leave in conditioner this is the best. I use it all the time with my daughter. I will never buy detangling spray again. Just a little conditioner and your all set.

 

Homemade Laundry soap

 

What you need

 

  • 1/2 Cup: Arm & Hammer Super Washing Soda {not Baking Soda}
  • 1/2 Cup: Borax  
  • 1/3 Bar of Fels-Naptha Soap {you could also use Ivory soap, but if using Ivory… use the whole bar}
  • Bucket {2 gallon size or larger}
  • Empty laundry detergent containers or bucket with a lid to store detergent.

 

What You’ll Do:

Grate 1/3 bar of Fels-Naptha Soap over a large pot or saucepan…

  • Add 6 cups of Water.
  • Heat over medium-high until soap dissolves and melts.
  • Add Washing Soda & Borax and stir until dissolved.
  • Remove from heat and set aside.
  • Pour 4 cups Hot Water into a bucket and then add Soap Mixture.
  • Stir and then add 1 Gallon + 6 Cups of additional water.  Stir.

 

Transfer to a bucket with a lid, or pour into empty laundry detergent containers.

Set aside, and let it sit overnight, or up to 24 hours, to thicken and gel up.

 

Homemade fabric softener

(I tried it and loved it.  I will put more conditioner in next time to make it smell better.)

 

What You’ll Need:

6 cups HOT water

3 cups white vinegar

2 cups Suave Refreshing Waterfall Conditioner {or other favorite scent}

 

What You’ll Do:

  • Mix conditioner & hot water well, until conditioner is dissolved completely.
  • Add the vinegar and mix well.
  • Store in a large container {empty fabric softener container, empty large vinegar bottle, etc}
  • Pour into a downy ball… or the fabric softener spot in your laundry machine… then wash!

 

Homemade Wipes

 

  • 2 1/2 cup Water
  • 2 tsp Baby Shampoo or Baby Bath
  • 1 tsp Baby Oil
  • 1/2 Roll Paper Towels (Bounty) I used scraps of old T-shirts.

 

Directions

Take old t-shirts.  I had just gone through our closet and took out anything that was fading, ripped, or didn’t fit anymore.  Cut them into pieces. Mix water, shampoo and baby oil in a container. Put the scraps into the mixture and let them soak.  I would wring the out and then put them into the baby wipe container. Be sure to make extra so. While you are cleaning one load of wipes, you can use the others.  I made an entire box full of scrapes. Keep a laundry basket one with a lid next to your changing area. I would wash these wipes by themselves in your washing machine.

 

Detangler

 

  • Any conditioner and a spray bottle. Just add about ¼ cup of condition and the rest water.

 

 

 

Parents of Special Education Kids

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Parents of Special Education Kids Need to know! Don’t take bull shit from anyone!

This is for all parents of special education children. You must fight for their rights.

You are the only voice they have.

Zelda was diagnosed with Autism at 2 years.

We weathered through early childhood intervention. She had speech therapy,

physical therapy and occupational therapy. I felt very comfortable with the early intervention team

but when we transferred over to the school teams, everything was a challenge. You had to fight for

everything.

This is one example of the IEP process I had issues with.


May 7, 2013 at 9:46pm

We had Zelda’s IEP today.  Zelda is in the 3-year-old preschool disabled classroom.

I have a problem with the IEP process. During an IEP meeting, parents are given a copy of the

IEP. They are expected to read over it there and agree to it there.

The problem was that now she has reached those goals and there were now new goals. The issue

for me is that I didn’t have access to those new goals until the meeting. I am very pleased and proud

of Zelda for making her goals but I wish I knew what they were before the meeting.

I felt this way through most of the meeting but my shock came when they talked about where

they wanted to place Zelda for next year.  When Zelda started school in October, they talked about

putting in the inclusion 3-year-old room in December, then it was the end of the year.  Then it was

to let her transition in the summer program. Then she would go there the following year.  Now they

say they want her to go to the preschool disabled 4-year-old class.   I mean did I miss something.

I was dumbfounded.  I mean if I knew this what they were planning I could have been better equipped

to asked questions.  Zelda made all of her goals, but we are not moving her to her least restrictive

environmentor to what I thought was her least restrictive environment.

I know have so many questions and it frustrates me because I had the entire IEP team there this

morning and was given new information and no time to process it.  Now I have questions.

I would like to see is a copy of a working copy of IEP’s given out to parents possible a week or

more before the IEP meeting.   I know people would say this creates more work for teachers,

but I don’t care. I am a teacher and if parents wanted more involvement I would be happy to help

them in anyway. If all parties knew what was in the IEP before the meeting, we could have more

intelligent questions. So that both home and school were on the same page.

 

It’s not just this school district.  From what I can see all school districts do the same thing.

I have been told that  the school has 7 to 10 days after the IEP meeting the parents to get

a copy of the IEP. Wouldn’t it have been much better if 7 to 10 days before parents received a

working copy?  I mean there are parents who care and want to work with the school.   We are not

the enemy. If we both wants what is best for our children, they we should both be on the same page.

Maybe the law needs to be changed.

ZELDA’S IEP

To prepare for this meeting, I read over her past IEP and her progress reports.

I wanted to be knowledgeable of what they expected of her and what services she was receiving.

I came with questions I wanted to ask at the meeting based on the goals and objectives set forth

in her original IEP. I felt prepared. There were objectives that Zelda was not making based on

her progress report and I had questions prepared based on that report.






Something for parents to remember:

You do not have to agree to the IEP at that meeting. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SIGN IT.

The school will make it sound like you do but you do not have to.  Think about any business,

would you sign a document you received before you had time to read it and understand it? No

you wouldn’t. So why would you do this with your child’s education?

You can request a copy of the IEP ahead of time. I am a teacher. This is not a difficult request.

UPDATE ON ZELDA

Going from the 3 year old who couldn’t talk to the girl in second grade whose biggest problem is

taking in class brings tears to my eyes. She is an amazing child and has come so far. I can’t wait

to see where life takes her.