Van’s Ear and Medical Advice 😕

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I just want to add a disclaimer. I am not 100 percent for one or the other. I use essential oils, I try to eat healthy; but I also take medicine. I think it’s important to research everything yourself. No one person can tell you what to do. There are many people out there pushing one way or the other and I strongly disagree with pushing someone into something and shaming them into something.

My son Van had many ear infections when he was a baby. Due to this he had a lot of fluid in his middle ear that was interfering with his ability to hear. This also lead to a delay in his speech and his overall learning. He had surgery to put tubes in his ear, so the fluid could come out the tubes and Van could hear.

Van’s ears

I am not a medicine for everything type of person but I am also not the holistic girl either. I believe in a balance. I know some won’t agree but what you do with your body and your family is your business. So I take my kids to a chiropractor and I go as well. Don’t really know if it helps with anything else then my back feeling good. My chiropractor tells not give my kids vaccinations and to cancel Van’s surgery for his ears. He says that if Van gets adjusted three times a week, he won’t have any fluid in his ears. Well great! Let me just tell my son that you may not may not hear for however long it takes for the Chiropractor to clear your ears. Furthermore, let me get my advice from someone who calls himself a doctor but never went to medical school.

Oh and somehow get you to the chiropractor three times a week! That’s a laugh! And when they say that Zelda has autism because of her vaccinations I cringe. They don’t know what causes autism! But hey there are five kids in Devin’s family who are on the spectrum! Yet people still say its vaccinations! I am not saying I have the answers but let’s play would you, rather. Would I rather have Zelda the way she is or Zelda who has or has had mumps, rubella, or many of the other things we vaccinate for. So let me take medical advice from the doctor who never went to medical school. Furthermore, what kind of person tells a mother with an autistic child that you gave her autism.

I feel sometimes you need to take medicine and sometimes you don’t. I am tired of the pressure of this chiropractor’s office. It is as if he is trying to make me feel bad for choosing medicine.

These blogs are rather old, but I have updated them. Vance had his surgery. He couldn’t hear anything beforehand and not he hears wonderfully. He doesn’t like loud noises but I think that’s natural from someone couldn’t really hear for a long time.
Yes, Zelda has Autism. When she was four years old, she hardly spoke and now her biggest issue in school is talking too much. Though I will save how wonderful she is for another post.

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I give up on Sleep

I give up on sleep!



A note to all new mommies out there. This phase will not last long. Treasure it while you can. Treasure those times cuddling while your baby eats. Treasure this special time with them, for soon they will sleep all night and so will you; but you will miss your cuddling time.

I give up on sleep.  I have tried and failed.  My son Van is up every two hours to eat.  He sleeps a lot during the day, which is frustrating because his sister is up all day.  This makes for one tired mommy. I was breastfeeding until a few days ago. During this time, I walked through life like a zombie.  In dire need of caffeine, I switched to baby formula instead of breastfeeding. I would have switched to formula soon anyway, because I won’t be able to breastfeed while at work, but this is a little earlier than I planned on.  I feel bad, because I know that breast milk is the best for the baby, but I was exhausted.

I know people who have gone back to work right after having a baby and I can’t figure out how they do it. I couldn’t keep my eyes open. The long nights for breastfeeding took a toll on me.  My husband told me that most people do not have C-section and I should not compare myself to others.   He said, “They inflicted a mortal wound on you, and then they stitched you up and gave you a baby to take care of.  So you are healing and breastfeeding.”

My husband can help me feed Van a little but, it is still me feeding him most of the time. I don’t mind. It is my time with him and I treasure that.  Having my husband just take one feeding is letting me sleep a good 4 hours which was better than what I was getting before.

At least I can have coffee now!  My daughter has also been mommy needy.  I felt bad because I couldn’t give her all the attention she needed.  I know that she has to get used to it, but today I was feeding Van and Zelda was screaming.  She was just screaming for attention, but it made mommy very sad.

How am I going to do this when I go back to work?  I don’t have the option to stay home.  I know there is a great debate between mothers who stay home and mothers who work.  Some of my friends are stay at home moms and have told me to just cut back on what we spend and I could stay home too.  Well, I’m sure if they looked at my finances they would see that was impossible. I carry the family health insurance, and we need the money.  I have decided not to go back to my part-time job. I haven’t told them yet. By not working there, it will give me some extra time with the kids.

Okay well it is five in the morning and the baby is up.  Time for mommy to make coffee.


Remember, this time does not last long. You might feel like your entire life will be nothing more diapers and bottles; but it won’t be. Treasure this time. 

My Thoughts While Pregnant with Vance


These are thoughts I had when I was pregnant with my son Vance.


December 14, 2010 at 4:14pm

Yesterday I felt like my water was breaking.  I called my doctor, and they told me to come to the hospital. I am 34 weeks pregnant with my second child and I had a c-section with my first one.  While at the hospital they hooked me up to monitors and saw I was having contractions. They later gave me an IV of fluids and did several tests. They decided that I had a UTI and gave me a prescription.  However, they also noticed that my baby’s heartbeat had dropped at several places. The hospital does not do ultrasounds at night so I was sent home.  My doctor has scheduled me for an ultrasound for tonight. I am worried.  Why would I have contractions? I didn’t feel them, just uncomfortable. Could the cord be bugging the baby? Could he be pulling on it or could it be around his neck? My husband thinks they would not have sent me home if there was something wrong, but I thought they just didn’t want to worry me.

A hospital that doesn’t do ultrasounds? I mean they made me wait until the next day. And I didn’t have an appointment until that night.


The ultrasound tech said everything was good.  Baby looked good, he is about 6 pounds, and everything was good.  He only mentioned that there was enough amniotic fluid and that it was on the high side, but I got a call from the doctor today saying that there was too much fluid.  So I am not sure what this means. She said he has too big of a swimming pool. Therefore, I am going for blood work tomorrow to test my blood sugar levels and they are sending me to fetal maternal medicine.  Therefore, I panicked again but then when they call with my appointment they say January 5! What! If it was that important why wait? Keep in mind this was December 16th. I have a regular appointment tomorrow so maybe I can learn more but I have never heard of having too much fluid.

Update:  Vance is now 7 years old. The fluid didn’t seem to be much of an issue. Vance has some behavioral issues he takes concerta for but that seems to be something that most people in his family have and nothing related to the amount of fluid postpartum.


I wanted to give updates in case others have the same or similar questions.


Vaginal after C-section or a C-section

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I wrote this back in 2011. I had a c-section with my first child and I was

trying to decide what was the best alternative for the birth of my second child.

My husband and I are trying to decide what we should do.  He seems okay

with leaving the decision up to me but I am not sure what I want to do. Though

I would have like to decide together it seems more like he didn’t care.

I know that there are dangers with C-sections or a cesarean section

and with VACS (vaginal after C-section); I had a c-section with my

daughter in October 2009, and now I am due Jan. 24 2011.

I know that they are close and I am not sure if this affects the decision or not.

My doctor told me that if I want to have more kids, than I should do I VACS,

but she also said I could have 3 C-sections.  I know people how have had 3 or

even 4. I am just not sure if I can put my baby’s life in danger so I can have the

chance to have more kids. I am not even sure which is better. I want to know

what is healthier for my baby.  Any suggestions?

A c-section is scheduled.  This will help with husband’s job and with the

logistics of my cousin watching Zelda.  I won’t be in labor as I was with

Zelda and even then, I had to have a c-section. This time they cannot induce

me as they did with Zelda.  I will get more time off work and I have been told

that you heal faster with the second c-section than you did with the first.

There are risks with a c-section because it is still a surgery, but if scheduled

I could choose my doctor and everything will be ready, unlike an emergency

c-section.  If I have a C-section, I can only have C-sections after that.


My son Vance just turned 7 years old and we did have a c-section for him.

It was the right choice. At birth he was bigger than Zelda so he would have

been a c-section anyway and if we went ahead with trying to have a Vaginal


The most serious risk of a trial of labor is that a C-section scar could

come open during labor.  This is very rare. But when it does happen,

it can be very serious for both the mother and the baby. Yes they say it is rare,

however I have talked to a few people who it has happened to and knowing

the size Van was at birth I would not be surprised if it would have happened to us.




I took my cat to the humane society

to get fix yesterday morning. He cried the entire way there.

I felt so bad because I had to leave him there and pick him

on the next morning. The kids were distraught asking where he

was and why he needed surgery.  They couldn’t understand why

I didn’t want kittens or why it’s important to spay and neuter cats and dogs.

Either way, I still felt awful leaving him there. I wondered what was going

through his mind. Wondering if we were coming back or did we abandon him.

We received “Kwazii” when my neighbor decided they didn’t want their kitten anymore.

Possible because he was growing up and wasn’t cute any longer.

Yes, Kwazii as in the Octonauts.  My four-year-old is obsessed with them.

So I had this fear that he would think someone else was abandoning him.

Needless to say, he was very happy to see us this morning and very happy to be home.